奥巴马家书

Stop Doubting Yourself

不要怀疑自己

If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己不相信自己,那没人会相信你。成功始于你的头脑,如果你所做的是不断地看遍自己,预言着未来的失败,这就真的会成为现实。与其怀疑自己,不如积极的考虑问题。不仅会让自己更加开心和成功,你还能够感染到周围的人。

Stop Being Negative

不要消极

Now that you’re done doubting yourself, stop doubting others. You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel–even if you have good intentions, people don’t like hearing negativity.

现在你不要再怀疑自己了,也别再怀疑身边的人。你不希望被人对你挑剔,那么也不要再去挑剔身边的人。想想你给别人带来的什么样的感受吧——即使出发点是好的,别人也不想听到那么多消极的事情呀。

Stop Being Mean

不要那么刻薄

It’s completely possible to step on someone’s toes without meaning to–it happens all the time. There’s no need topile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop being mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeance unless that’s the type of person you want to be.

无意踩到别人的情况真的有可能会发生——常常会发生。但没必要去处心积虑地做一些不好的事情,所以要有意识地让自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人对你无理地对待,随他们去好了。没必要去报复,除非你也想成为那一类的人。

Stop Wasting Time

不要再浪费时间

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’s great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long- termgoals.

虽然之前说过了,但我还想再说一遍:时间是我们拥有的最宝贵的资源,不要把时间浪费在没有意义的事情上面,如果你想探索这个世界的黑暗角落,很好。我也认识一些没哟固定工作的一些自由职业者,但我不会以牺牲自己的短期长期目标为代价和他们出去玩乐。

Stop Making Promises

别再做承诺

Always under-promise and over-deliver. When you make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often than not, your promise is an absolute (i.e. “I promise I’ll always love you”), and only Sith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply bethere when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.

总是做承诺,总是做不到。每次做承诺都是不禁给自己添了责任,无论你的出发点有多好,你都不可能完成所有的部分。大部分时候,你的承诺都太过绝对(比如“我发誓我永远爱你”),也只能在绝对环境中才能实现。与其用语言许下承诺,不如在别人需要你的时候出现,然后用行动达到他们的期望吧。

Stop Taking Everything Personally

别把每件事太往心里去

People get offended about the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamar’s now-infamous verse on “Control” this summer: be called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he’s better than (and he’s right). The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response.

The thins is, all K-Dot said is he’s the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that’s exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人们会因为一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯。就拿Kendrick Lamar这个夏天备受争议的歌曲《Control》为例:他在歌词中挑衅了一些他认为比他弱的说唱歌手(的确是这样),一石激起千层浪,整个说唱界的歌手都蜂拥录歌作为回击。

重点在于,所有的人都认为自己是最好的说唱者,每个人都更看重自己,这就是他的目的所在。这件事交给我们的无非就是不是所有的事情都要围着你转,如果你是玻璃心,有人会利用这一点。

Just Stop, and Breathe

停一下,深呼吸吧

No matter what you’re doing in life or how your day is going, there’s always room to just stop for a moment and just breathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you’re doing wrong.

无论你现在在干什么,这一天过得怎么样,你都需要好好停一下深呼吸。不如现在就歇一歇,犒赏自己总算挺过了一些错事。

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